Well as most of you know, we moved our family to Florida over a year ago because we wanted to enjoy the magic whenever we wanted too. I love my Disney, so does Craig, so do both my girls. But something seems to keep reoccurring with every email I receive and with more of the people I speak too. And here it is… Disney is a distraction to many people. But what you may not realize is that it can be a healthy one, or a negative one. So today’s post is more of a food for thought, to make each of you think about what it is that you truly want out of your Disney passion and if it is helping or hurting your life. Read on.
I am thankful for each email, phone call, and correspondence I receive. I read EVERY SINGLE ONE of them, and I reply as often as I can. But what seems to be repeating, quite a bit these days, is how many want to move here in the hopes of leaving something behind. I am here to tell you the gut honest truth…what you are dealing with, whether it is internal or external, unless it is a physical thing or person, you WILL bring it with you. That feeling we all feel when we are on our Disney vacation is JUST THAT, the vacation feeling. No one is capable of having this feeling, 24/7. We hope we can capture it, perhaps bottle it up somehow, but it is unrealistic to think we can feel that at all times during our daily lives. And seriously, who would want to? It would be come mundane and eventually boring, to the point that we would go looking for the next “high” in our lives.
Yes, I have a point, which is this. If you are currently struggling in your life, and you want nothing more than to live in the land of Mickey, there is nothing wrong with that. Goals are healthy and expected. But I IMPLORE you to understand that if you are dealing with storms in your life right now, I encourage you to deal with them where you are, before taking such a huge leap into the unknown. Thinking it will all “go away” because you moved somewhere else couldn’t be further from the truth. Carl and I had several mountains to climb before we could even ENTERTAIN the idea of moving here. I can say with my whole heart that several of my local friends have all had to overcome something to get here- no one wants to deal with the uglies in life, but if you don’t, how can you truly enjoy the good stuff?
If you enjoy your support system where you live, that goes away when you move across the country. Yes, Social Media makes it easy to stay in touch, but it isn’t the hug or someone’s face to face contact you need at that crucial moment. Deal with what ails you now, so you can move on to your new chapter without having the “What If’s” haunting the rest of your life. What if you had apologized to that person, what if you had made things right with another, what if you had stayed to save more so that you were more ready for this? Yes, there will always be something that isn’t completed or finished in our lives, but moving to a completely different life means letting go of the old and finding closure and peace without losing who you are in the process.
I titled this “The Disney Distraction” because I have seen many people use Disney as a way to distract themselves from life’s problems. Trust me, I am one of them. But where it becomes unhealthy, is when people put it above everything else. Do you know how many times I have to fight the urge to get upset when someone says “Oh you live in the world of fantasy near Disney, you have no idea what life really is.” Are you kidding me?!? It may come off to my readers that I put Disney high on my priority list, but it is so far down on my list because I actually do know better. It is great to have it nearby to enjoy when I want, but I have kids in school soon, I want to be volunteering once school is in place, and I NEED to make church my priority again. It isn’t the end all of any day here, again, it is nearby for my enjoyment and that is a great feeling to have. But I don’t feel the need to be in it 24/7.
I didn’t move here because I am obsessed with Disney, I moved here because I wanted to enjoy it when I wanted too- that was clearly not possible in WI. But people, that’s not the only reason. The job market, weather, and lack of snow here was a HUGE plus in our books. The things to do, opportunities to be had- another HUGE positive. But it hurts when people feel that I live in the land of fantasy, which couldn’t be further from the truth. I show you want I want to show you, my happiest moments with friends and families. I still cry, I still have my bad days, but you will never see those pictures on the blog or on FB. I am human, and I followed my dream, our dream, to live here. And for those who enjoy judging us on it, find your own dream and stop worrying about ours.
Disney IS a wonderful distraction from our daily problems, but I have to remind myself that when I leave Epcot for the day, that problem still exists and I have to take care of it. Keeping the passion, not obsession, healthy and realistic makes living here balanced and awesome. Keep it real in the fantasy folks and it will all be fine. Have a great day!