Ok, there are times we all need to suck it up and say sorry when we know we have done wrong, I am all for that. But what seems to come up in several conversations with those who want to move down here is that they are sorry to those who they have to leave, sorry for the choice they are making for what it may do, sorry that they love Disney so much…. ok people, listen up! We are ALL going to STOP being so apologetic for what we LOVE and for what our dreams and goals are. Read on my friends.
Do you have any clue on the number of times I would feel “bad” for having to tell my boss I wanted my own paid time off to go to Disney World, only to hear those dreaded words we all have heard “You are going there again?” Excuse me, WHY do people care? I have written about this years ago, but it bothers me to the core when I HEAR people judging others for following their dream of not only vacationing here, but LIVING here. Again, why does ANYONE care what YOUR dream is.
First off, it is a courageous step for ANYONE to take when they take their own dream head on. Whether it is going back to school, or like we did, relocating to a new state, and essentially a new life. It is scary, it takes guts, and just because people are passionate and verbal about it doesn’t give anyone the right to put it down. I have heard some crazy dreams that people have, but it is THEIR life, not mine, and I am in no position to judge someone else. When you have a dream, you MUST look at it straight in the eye and say “Let’s do this.”
Second, just HAVING a dream is something beautiful and awesome. It sounds cliche to many, but many are jealous. Some are content to sit the rest of their life in the same old, same old and never go for what they really want. Again, their choice, their life. But when you have something you are passionate about, and it eats away at your soul… it is GOD whispering in your ear “Here is your purpose, now go get it.” LISTEN to that voice, it could mean the difference in the most wonderful life you ever dreamed of or just coasting and never knowing what that burning is like inside your soul.
Third, stop apologizing for ANYTHING you are passionate about. If you love to draw, draw. If you want to be a writer, open up a notebook and begin tonight! But please, do not let the haters of the world get to you because they feel that their words seem to have more merit than your own. I am so completely guilty of this, where I let someone’s influence on me create a hole inside a beautiful thing I had going. Because I didn’t have the guts to say “Enough, this is my dream, you are not going to ruin it” or “This is MY life, MY dream, and you don’t have any hold on me or what I want to do with my life.” Let your voice be heard, it is one of the best things that God has given us!
Fourth, OWN it. Own it all. Own your dream, yours words, your choices, and your path. Be responsible with that dream, but don’t be apologetic. Own the decisions you make, whether it is by yourself or with your family. I can’t tell you how many times I have heard “If only we had done this instead…” but you didn’t, you can’t change it because it is past and this is the present. Own the future for what it is, and make the best of whatever you want your path to be moving forward.
When someone apologizes for wanting to move to Florida, I actually start to feel upset. I want to shake the person and say “Why?” Something IN YOU says you want to move here, so WHAT are you waiting for? Yes, I know life situations have to fit like puzzle pieces for it to work, but just the fact that ANYONE is working on a dream means they are half way there to achieving it. Take a hold of it and DO NOT let go!
Don’t feel sorry for wanting to move, for wanting a new life, for wanting a change, or for wanting to experience all that Florida or somewhere else has to offer. Be proud, be happy, be courageous, and be brave. Any life choice is just that, a LIFE choice, but folks you only get one life… so please enjoy it and stop apologizing.